I don’t need a survey, research, no empirical evidence necessary. I’ve seen it with my own  two eyes. Women date assholes like it’s their job. Why do men and women but especially women date jerks? In my experience I have had many friends or family date complete assholes, and they keep going back for more! I have always been that woman who said enough is enough I’m not taking your crap but many of those near and dear to me take it with a silver spoon! These guys are treating them poorly, disrespect them or their family; they get away with all sorts of crap. Yet women go weak in the knees for them each time they spew their lies and promise they will change or that they are sorry.

Sure in the beginning this guy is charming, fun, exciting and makes you feel golden but in reality he is chauvinistic, arrogant and selfish to the max. He is an asshole.

Maybe women are looking for the take charge, challenge them mans man kind of guy but just find these assholes. Every girl loves an assertive man. The guy who makes the first move with confidence, who can be unpredictable and take you passionately. I love a man who is passionate.

On other hand I feel that some, just some, not all of them, just do not have their act together or have major self esteem issues or are very immature & inexperienced. Women, who are more mature and expe­ri­enced, with high-self esteem, and femi­nine confi­dence, can spot these childish behavior miles away and won’t usually tolerate it. But I am talking about the women (or men) who continue to go back to the same asshole. Most of us are looking at this guy thinking what an asshole he is! He is so immature, selfish, rude, etc etc..! But the woman dating him doesn’t see that version of him. Usually she doesn’t see this version until later in the relationship, when there has been a history established, attachments, dependencies, and mostly comfort. I think most women are comfortable or scared to be alone so they stay in their misery, instead of standing up for what they deserve. It is much easier to stay with the familiar then to venture into the unknown and change.

Now for the defense of assholes and jerks every­where, it’s impor­tant to know that these char­acter extremes are often uncon­scious compen­sa­tions for a lack of some­thing else (and I don’t neces­sarily mean down there). No they weren’t born assholes although sometimes you do wonder; they adopt these traits in order to best adapt to their lives’ expe­ri­ences. That being said, we can see these guys are only doing this because that is what they know, they live what they learn. Do not try to save or change this man, or woman! It will NOT work. The only person who can decide that is them, so it is a lost cause, save yourself the grief.

And nice guys who say nice guys finish last. You know why? Because nice guys are afraid of women. They rarely go up to the woman and ask her out. That’s why they finish last, they don’t exude that confidence like the asshole does. Yes yes there are good men out there; I have proof since I am blessed with being with one. He is confident, passionate, funny, talented, good in bed, fun, charming, smart, everyone loves him, and above all he loves me to no end. So yes girls and boys, the good ones do exist, but you have to get rid of the bad egg you have first to find them! Stop going back to that same asshole, or don’t be afraid of asking someone out! Go after what you want, all they can say is no in some sort of phrase but you know what? It is not the end of the universe as we know it; it just means something better matched for you is still out there waiting for you to find them!

So women stop dating those assholes like it is your job! And good guys just ask her out, she might surprise you and say she’s been waiting a long time for you to ask! Or vice versa, guys stop dating bitches, girls go after that handsome nerdy boy, he usually is the one with a heart of gold. The point is, go after what you want, don’t let anyone treat you like your dirt, and don’t ignore those who try to tell you something about someone your dating, they often see what you don’t, keep an open mind, but for crying out loud, stop stop STOP dating the asshole, or bitch. You DESERVE better!

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1. Sonya A confident, outgoing and sexy woman. Sonyas are warm, humorous and bright. Sonyas always have a twinkle in their eye and know the best dirty jokes. Sonyas love adventure and know how to have a good time. “Wow, what an interesting woman, she’s a real (Sonya)”.

2. Sonya’s are the most beautiful with the most lucious lips and sparkling pretty eyes. You r lucky to have a Sonya like you. You r luckier to have a Sonya date you. Sonyas are where its at but are so rare to find. You r so lucky. You have a Sonya. I’m jealous!

3. Sonya. She is the epitome of hotness. A volouptuous and curvy girl with a gentle personality and a distinct laugh. A very loyal friend and true to her word. She is a dreamer and loves to fantasize about traveling, romance and adventures! Sonya has a beautiful soul and brilliant eyes.

4. Sonya. A beautiful, gorgeous, awesome girl. She’s amazing!

5. Sonya. The sexiest girl in the whole wide world, and creator of Sonyanese.

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1. Kaden

2. Kaden

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Please silence your cell phones now. It seems everywhere you go someone is on there phone, it is practically glued to their ear. You can not even go to the bathroom without hearing people talking on their phones and hearing the person beside them respond thinking the person is talking to them but no, they are on their cellular phone. I used to see people talking and think “are they talking to themselves?” but no, the bluetooth headset had come out.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my Iphone as much as the next person, but is it really necessary to take it with you to the bathroom? One of my biggest pet peeves when it comes to cell phones is dinner. When I am out to dinner with someone, especially my fiancé, for the love of God put the phone away! It will still be there in an hour or however long dinner lasts. Sure I may check into a resturant for my facebook but then I put my phone in my purse for safekeeping. I find playing on your phone, texting, etc…Extremely rude while you’re visiting with someone. Yes we are all guilty of this but just try to think about how it makes you feel when you’re spilling your guts to someone, or even telling them about your day and they are all involved in their phone instead of your conversation. Aggravating isn’t it?

I also recently started an office job doing medical scanning and documentation quality checks, and so forth. I was told I could bring my phone to work or my Ipod if I wished, which I thought “That’s awesome! This is going to be great!” While I thoroughly enjoy my ear buds and the tunes flowing into my ears; I do not enjoy my table vibrating from the person beside me’s phone. Basically every twenty minutes I hear a vibration from my surrounding coworkers. While I am certain that text message is super important and the world’s fate depends upon you reading it and texting back would it kill you to do some work? Having the luxury of your phone is wonderful it does not mean slack off and get paid to text instead of doing what you were hired for. Nothing annoys me more than me doing all the work and my coworkers just sitting on their butts all day. Either way they get paid but what happened to having pride in your work, pride in doing a great job? What is with this lazy, cellular phone, texting nation?

What are your thoughts, pet peeves on cellular phones today?

The monotomy of going into work everyday and doing the same thing over and over again tends to make your mind wonder, along with your eyes. Don’t get me wrong, the repetition is not what is bothering me, its where my eyes tend to fall. I know the work place is not your home but have a little pride. Sitting in a sea of clutter and little bits of trash just gives me the disgusting shudders. My neighboring coworker has a minture landfill going on; napkins, sticky notes, a cup, about thirty hot sauce packets from good old taco bell, chapstick, lotion, great value water flavoring, tape, markers, and the list goes on, along with staples and tiny bits of paper that have fallen off the files we deal with. The guy across is just super disorganised and has the same bits of paper and dust particles everywhere. Is cleaning and organization becoming a lost art people?